I had a conversation with a friend about a week or so ago about superfluous people. You know, those who spit a million honorifics before getting to their actual given names. Those who add every single degree they ever received (undergraduate, graduate, and honorary) at the end of their e-mail signatures. Those who tout authority over a subject that’s doesn’t even belong to them. They seek to be seen in the right light, even if it means darkening other peoples’ reputations.
For the past year and a half, I’ve worked under such a person. While she is nice and friendly, she walks to her own drum beat and not in a good way. I’ve seen her “go rogue”, skip protocol, and send e-mails to the entire staff about subjects that don’t fall under her jurisdiction. She’s deftly transferred many of her duties to me and volunteered me to work on projects without my prior knowledge. And worse of all, I’ve actually witnessed her (and heard from others) make me the scapegoat for things going awry.
Naturally, all of these things, topped off by possible damage to my name, irritated me to no end. I began to resent her. Whenever she asked me to do something, a bitter taste would form in my mouth.
But one day, I remember walking back to my desk. I was heated up about some incident involving her, and I was ranting internally. But through all that mental ruckus, I heard God say:
“I love her just as much as I love you.”
That stopped me in tracks. Despite all of her (professional) flaws and her social faux pas, He loves her completely and eternally. Just as much as He loves old sinful, selfish, imperfect me. After that moment, I tried harder to have more patience and grant her more grace. And though her treatment of me didn’t change much, my perception of her did.
Unfortunately, as I write this, she may be losing her position due to her work performance. And though the dismissal is warranted, I sincerely pray that she lands well.
“This is real love—not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins.Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other”
-I John 4:10-11