“He is no good.”
Freida’s brown eyes narrowed as she folded her arms and leaned back against the couch cushion.
I had said only a few words before she rapidly declared her judgment.
I tried to begin again but was cut off.
“He is no good. What do you expect?”
Her voluminous conclusions drowned out my further facts and details.
“That’s what they all do.”
“He’s needs to be ashamed of himself.”
“I’m so sick of all of them.”
Eventually, I settled into silence as she preached the tainted sermon to her own choir.
As she spoke, I could almost see the words as they exited her mouth.
Each letter blackened with toxins and spiked with pain.
So heavy with hurt that entire sentences crashed into me.
Causing me to inch away from them…and from her.
I think Freida makes her batter each morning.
Her bitter batter.
Furiously stirs it in a large ceramic bowl.
The thick ooze poured into 3×4 muffin tins.
Baked at 500 degrees.
Each morsel slowly eaten until the tongue absorbs the flavor.
The bowl and spoon are licked and washed clean.
Until the next day.
When a fresh batch is made.
The ingredients came into Freida’s life 7 years ago.
She’d been dealt a heavy blow: Her 17-year marriage was ending.
Her ex-husband inarguably was the cause of the demise and had soon remarried.
Which made Freida’s recovery that much tougher.
And though it appeared from all outside appearances that she was rebounding quite nicely, any conversation with her proved that assumption wrong.
This daily dining on bitterness has become dangerous for Freida.
Its aroma repels those around her.
Its flavor colors everything she says and thinks.
And her emotions are gaining weight.
Added pounds that sadly will only make her sink.
We all have or will encounter situations that damage our spirit and make us look at life scornfully.
And left to ourselves, it is an easy opening for satan to convince us to stir the batter.
Bitterness will never let us heal.
But forgiveness does.
It is always difficult to forgive the source of our pain.
And sometimes it’s even harder to forgive ourselves for getting entwined in the first place.
But by praying for that person and asking Jesus to help us to release the grudge, the flow of bitterness will begin to slow and eventually cease.
And only He can make the broken heart forgive.
Praying for Freida and for all who have bitter batter in a bowl.
Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.